When I surveyed more than 4, Americans about their sexual fantasies for my book Tell Me What You Wantrough sex turned out to be one of the two most common things people had fantasized about. Most people—regardless of gender and sexual orientation—appear to have been turned on by the idea at some point. Interestingly, women are even more likely to view this kind of porn than are men. A recent study published in the journal Evolutionary Psychological Science offers some answers. Researchers surveyed college students in New York about their attitudes toward and experiences with consensual rough sex. In fact, people seemed to really be enjoying this kind of sex. Plus, women said that they orgasm much faster when they have rough sex. Among the most common triggers were trying something new, boredom, and playing out a fantasy.
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