It also doesn't mean you don't need to give in to temptation. We're all human, and turning a blind eye to the rest of the world once we find our person just isn't realistic despite what every rom-com would have you believe. Attraction is natural. It's quite literally what keeps our species from going extinct. So there is no reason to endlessly guilt-trip yourself over something so trivial, especially when your very human spouse has probably done the same. With that having been said, make sure to be gentle with your partner, and try not to read too much into it, if they come to you with such a confession of their own. Here, eight women reveal how they handled crushing on someone else—without ruining their marriage. My husband and I have an agreement: Should the opportunity arise that either Colin Firth makes a pass at me or Scarlett Johansson make a pass at him, we are allowed to take them up on it.